I just don't get...
...why there seems to be an entire swath of the Black American female population that persists in complaining about the dearth of "good Black men" while they continue to overlook perfectly good Black American males who would gladly date them (if not enter into long term relationships or even marry them). I do include myself in that group known as "good Black men". Its is not oxymoronic, and there are quite a few of us out there waiting to be discovered by Black American women.
These Black women will then complain vociferously when those same Black men proceed to enter into relationships with non-Black women, even when these Black women deemed these same Black men unworthy of their time.
WTF?
For all the sisters that fit this description (and there are many), consider this -- you had your chance and you screwed the pooch. (Pun intended.)
YOU blew it! So don't go putting it on these men that somehow they did something wrong. The brothers went and found women who were willing to work with them, grow with them, and experience life with them, while you, with your excessive demands, inflexibility and complaining attitude, were completely recalcitrant. Oftentimes, you were proud of being so difficult. So shut the fuck up, you spinsters! You got exactly what you deserved, but more importantly, you got exactly what you wanted.
Any loser who gives up an opportunity willingly abdicates the right to complain about their decision ex post facto. Accept responsibility for your actions, you whining child!
Anyway, this is just something that has been on my mind recently as I have tiptoed into the "dating scene" again. A conversation this past Friday finally spurred me to write this, and I'm sure I will write more on this subject in the future.
P.S.: For anyone who wants to complain, let it be known that I am Black, both of my parents are Black, and most of my good Black male friends have experienced this. I've even had conversations with my own father about my own sister and how she has pulled this stuff with her boyfriend. This phenomenon is experientially familiar to most (all?) Black men that I know.
These Black women will then complain vociferously when those same Black men proceed to enter into relationships with non-Black women, even when these Black women deemed these same Black men unworthy of their time.
WTF?
For all the sisters that fit this description (and there are many), consider this -- you had your chance and you screwed the pooch. (Pun intended.)
YOU blew it! So don't go putting it on these men that somehow they did something wrong. The brothers went and found women who were willing to work with them, grow with them, and experience life with them, while you, with your excessive demands, inflexibility and complaining attitude, were completely recalcitrant. Oftentimes, you were proud of being so difficult. So shut the fuck up, you spinsters! You got exactly what you deserved, but more importantly, you got exactly what you wanted.
Any loser who gives up an opportunity willingly abdicates the right to complain about their decision ex post facto. Accept responsibility for your actions, you whining child!
Anyway, this is just something that has been on my mind recently as I have tiptoed into the "dating scene" again. A conversation this past Friday finally spurred me to write this, and I'm sure I will write more on this subject in the future.
P.S.: For anyone who wants to complain, let it be known that I am Black, both of my parents are Black, and most of my good Black male friends have experienced this. I've even had conversations with my own father about my own sister and how she has pulled this stuff with her boyfriend. This phenomenon is experientially familiar to most (all?) Black men that I know.
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